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What are your thoughts on women and getting upset when men say not all men do something?
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If you are talking about the new campaign #yesallwomen where they say not all men do something but all women experience something, then I fully support that. If you are referring to when a woman makes a general statement about men than I think it’s lunacy and they should get out of their feelings.

This is why. When a statement like, say, “men are disgusting.” Is made. It can be taken two ways; a generalization of the whole group or just speaking in the plural tense and referring to more than one specific group in the larger whole.

That being said. As a member of the gender that she spoke about I and any other member of said group has a right to defend themselves and correct her or tell her not to generalize. This can be problematic otherwise being that if she falls into the former group she may not know better and should be educated, speaking that way could give the less knowledgeable the impression that the general statements is legitimate, and when making statements it is important to expound on comments like that.

The most common response I hear is something like “omg we all know not ALL men do (insert what you wish)… This is usually followed by some condescending statement. Here’s the issue with that. Not all people recognize that not all men are that way (thats ome resaon why racist, misogynist, phobic thought, and misandy exist), you are a stranger to me. You could be one of those people, I have no way of knowing and I have a right to respond if you are.

More over I see a big double standard with most of these people. These same people will get upset if a man makes a statement like “Women are all users. ” they will be the first ones to issue a rebuttal in this situation. That’s hypocrisy. They’re both reckless statements issued publicly and bout are applicable for challenge.

things go both ways, if it’s wrong for one side it’s wrong for the other. And if you make a statement be willing to explain it, and deffend it. To hear people say something wrong and to say nothing is the same as doing it. To see someone do something wrong and not oppose it is the same as condoning it. That’s how I see it. If a comment can apply to you, you have a right to respond.

Question of the day.

What do you define as objectification?

Thoughts?

In reply to my #FemaleLies post (this will be updated)
Me: Women are great communicators and better at expressing how they feel than men. Woman: I shouldn't have to tell you what's wrong, you should just know. #FemaleLies
Cara: I have never said such a thing to a man... But sometimes, men should know what they have done without being told, if they have obviously offended their woman, why can't they see their faults?? Men are black and white with the occasional shade of grey, women are on the otherhand are colourful.
Me: The answer to that is a simple one but its one that most women simple don't seem to grasp or under stand. Just because something is obvious to you does not mean it is obvious to others. As you pointed out men and women communicate differently. Men are very direct and literal in communication and execution (who what when where why how). Because as men we usually have to be. It is a lot more efficient. As men we have to provide, we are help to a certain standard by other men, society, women, stereotypes. It's how we are raised as well. We know what we are going to buy at the mall/store before we leave the house, we know what tools we need to build something, etc. Women tend to communicate with subtle context,are more often less direct and and want to to connect the dots rather than just say what ever it is, and tend to read in between the lines of a statement even if it nothing to read into. This causes a problem since men are often so blunt which is why men so often have to end up saying no that's not what I meant." Also A lot of women tend to go into a conversation or at times conflict thinking they know the end result and you cant get a word in. Men and women also communicate with 2 different objects, we speak 2 different languages. and it causes a problem. Also if you all know that we don't just know, which has been made obvious by you guys being so pissed because we DON'T just get it when "we should just get it" in a rational would you would change up your methods or at the very least just say it. Men know you don't just get things its A LOT you guys don't understand and vice versa. SO we either tell you or just don't bring it up we don't try to make you guess. To a man that is really childish and it pisses up off, specifically if we've asked you 2 to 3 times what's wrong and we hear Nothing is wrong" we will either believe you because an adult should know how to say what's on their mind. Or assume you don't want to talk about it and drop it. If we've asked and you deny a problem then say you should just know when we mad a clear effort to fix the situation, congratulations you just fucked any chance of us wanting to deal with anything related to it at that point. Us trying to fix it directly wasn't good enough so we don't deal with you. Why is that? Because in the world of men if a man behaves that way when confronted he is a not a man and is not respected. He is a bitch in our eyes and childish. He is more or less dis associated from our lives or circle. We are raised to respect certain qualities and to exhibit certain qualities. That is a hindrance and takes away from us doing our jobs as men and by proxy can effect us providing for our families, doing our jobs, etc. That is not tolerated in the world of men so if a woman does that it psychologically drives us crazy because of the conflict it has on the home life which we are programmed to want to be provided for, secure and keep safe and now it has infiltrated and corrupted the whole purpose of his effort, by his partner in life no less. If its a situation where you didn't deny there was a problem it still basically boils down to the last part. I hope this helps you understand. Men do you agree?

explicitlyflawed:

polerin:

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herahawk:

feministrocker:

facebooksexism:

legallyblinding:

A friend of mine is a student at Notre Dame. She was out with friends at a restaurant in South Bend, when this happened:

This photo was taken tonight at Nick’s Patio in South Bend, IN. These clever gentlemen thought it was super funny to talk about how much they would like to “violently rape that bitch,” “take it from that cunt,” and “beat the shit out of her.” They mentioned being puzzled about why “whores should even get paid” for the privilege of having their small penises inside them. They also thought it was super awesome to call me a “fucking whore” when I asked them to stop yelling ugly misogynistic things across the restaurant.


Sadly the manager asked me to leave after I began taking photos of these men. I explained to the manager that the group had been talking about beating up women, raping women, and were using extraordinarily offensive sexist language including bitch, cunt, slut, etc., but the manager simply told me to “return to my seat.” I declined to do so and left, while the men continued to shout “whore” at me (and at least one threatened to rape me as well).

To sum it up, a group of douchebags decided to create a hostile environment for no fucking reason. My friend was brave enough to stand up for herself and other people in the restaurant, but when she decided to do something about it, THE MANAGER ASKED HER TO LEAVE. Chances are these kids are Notre Dame students, and their actions likely violated the school’s behavioral code.

Here’s the information for the restaurant. Let them know that pandering to lowlifes is totally unacceptable. If there are groups or organizations that keep track of places that fuck up like this, let them know.

Nick’s Patio
http://www.nickspatio.com
1710 North Ironwood Dr.
South Bend, IN 46635 
Tel: 574-277-7400

Please help to spread the word.

This is in my home state…I’ll be happily telling any/everyone I know in that area to never support this business again.

Signal boost!

Welp. Not going there anymore. What the shit.

Really? I fucking go here all the time.

Looks like that isn’t happening anymore.

look at those fuckers hiding from the camera too. They know it’s not good, and they aren’t doing shit to stop it. Fuck them.

I don hope any one who has ever gone to this establishment. This what you do. print this out twice, photo and all.

  1. take the first copy and tape it on the front door or window at said establishment.
  2. walk inside and ask for the manager.
  3. when the manger comes to you read this post word for word. when done say because of this restaurants behavior, clear endorsement of misogyny and immoral, passage handling of this atrocity, I nor my family and friends will never return to this establishment.
  4. walk out.
  5. take the copy you left with and take it to the newspaper and get it printed even if in the wanted section.

The goal is that people that come to the restaurant and see the first copy will do the same. and so on and so on. The restaurant will be covered with their actions. and they loose business and will be forced to change their ways, even if only to appease clients. they WILL make a change.

This behavior is NOT ok and if I were there I probably would have got kicked out to because I simple can’t sit by and watch this go down and say nothing. and do not support any establishment that violates your rights, amendments, of freedom.

abhortion:

If you think misandry jokes are funny, don’t throw a fit when someone makes a misogynist joke.

If you think misogynist jokes are funny, don’t throw a fit when someone makes a misandry joke.

In the past quarter century, we exposed biases against other races and called it racism, and we exposed biases against women and called it sexism. Biases against men we call humor.
—Warren Farrell
I’m not shocked by this. I thought it was well known but maybe now people might py attention. I will say the articlae didn’t point out how men are down played as unintelligent or base. The next time you switch on the television, count how many programmes have the token ‘stupid boyfriend’ or father figure. Switch over to a children’s channel / time window and watch how many cartoons or programmes reflect ‘silly daddy’ characters who never remember dates, gets chastised by the counter part, and is in a almost never ending apologetic/walking on egg shell state. nearly all the women in these same programmes will be smart, sexy, sassy and full of beans, capable of juggling a career lifestyle with children, a husband and a social circle – let’s not forget that she’s undoubtedly a wonderful cook and always remembers everybody’s birthdays.

NEW STUDY SAYS WOMEN AND MINORITIES ARE JUST DECORATION FOR MEDIA

On December 3, 2012 by Lauren

I stumbled across this article recently about the studies that actress Geena Davis’ Institute on Gender in Media has been reporting on and I was to be honest pretty shocked at some of the results. I guess that if as women we are only told to be certain things through television, magazines, and films that is all we will aspire to be. To see the Institutes full report check out http://www.seejane.org

It’s no big revelation that women and minority actors have long struggled to land prominent roles in big-budget Hollywood fare. And entertainment and media’s oversexualization of women (even in Olympics coverage) has always been pretty damn bald-faced.

But how about kids’ TV shows, or family movies?

The Geena Davis Institute on Gender in Media (founded in 2004 by Oscar-winning actress and United Nations special envoy Geena Davis) has published a new report (PDF) detailing the stereotypes, barriers, and straight-up exploitation that still define how badly women and girls are treated on screen. The study takes a deep dive into prime-time television, as well as children’s programming and family-friendly films. Women are scarcer in prime-time shows and family films, and those films depict “fewer women in prestigious occupational positions,” the study notes. “Females are not only missing from popular media, [but] when they are on screen, they seem to be there merely for decoration.”

Check out some of the stunning stats below:

Some of ya’ll women kill me with this. Again check yourselves and what you teach your kids. Like I’ve been saying the past couple of days more so than others. Take some responsibility.

Artist: Lupe Fiasco

Song: Bitch Bad

I saw this on my dash and read the comments under it from female bloggers and wrote this, I didn’t intend for it to be this long but oh well. This is what i wrote under the image when I reblogged it. "Are you kidding me? This is news to you, are girls really this delusional? Seriously how is this surprising to you, you’re honestly going to sit here and say that you didn’t know that this is how it is and how this magazine has ALWAYS been? I hear women complain all the time about how magazine kills women/girls self esteem but this is shocking to you… Seriously a lot of women are responsible for their own problems, you guys know the truth but ignore it and act like it doesn’t exist. It’s there with men/women you choose, “friends” you hang out with, talk/confided to, and choices you make, and these same types of women (not generalizing I said types because I’m speaking to a very specific group) play the victim. You irritate the hell out of me. Some of these same women who commented, reblogged, and and liked this post are still going to buy the next issue and other magazines like this, and even scarier enter this very contest. This is why guys don’t want you reading this crap and this is why you frustrate us. We have to pick up the pieces and we always get the blame for this. Well he’res some tough love. it’s not mens fault the world is like this it’s YOURS, that’s right I SAID IT.1.You don’t like these superficial, shallow, sexiest etc. stuff in the media, then stop buying them. you say you don’t like it but buying of this stuff has not slowed down yet, YOU are the ones buying This stuff NOT men. it’s called supply and demand, if no one bought it the companies would not make it. But be honest, you like this stuff, you like being objectified. you love that feeling of buying a new pair of shoes and knowing how hot you’ll look in them, hearing about the new cosmetic etc. you are your own worst enemy, maybe the truth is, that you are these things you hate, maybe you should change some things about you and really look at why you buy into all of this.2.the owner of these companies are NOT MEN they are women, their chairmen are WOMEN, their editors, mostly WOMEN, talent scouts mostly WOMEN, people that design the image are mostly WOMEN, and it’s same on down the list.3.You say their is a issue, what have YOU personally done to fix it?There is so much more I could say but frankly I’m exhausted and I think you see my point. I’m not saying that there are not sexist men out their but theY are not nearly the core of this problem and frankly the over whelming majority of men on the planet feel like I do, are pro women, and many consider themselves feminist. It’s a very small percent of men that are sexist where as there is a over whelming majority of women that buy these products, have poor self esteem and are self conscious, and read these magazines and watch these commercials and the poor self viewing is growing even more. I’ve seen the change in women of all ages from when I’ve grown up to now and I’ve sat and contemplated deeply rather it was me being older now I see more or is it a real change and I’ve concluded that it is not my age. Women are completely different and for the most part, not for the better. With all the legal and legislative advances you’ve gained so many of you have taken monstrous steps backward. I see a sea of thirsty, self loathing, complacent, materialistic, lazy, denial driven, nihilistic shells when I look at many of you. The work needs to begin with you and the poor choices so many of you make with your daily lives. You are passing this to your children and not just in the world you are shaping for them but by them watching your actions and mimicking them. Women are supposed to be a pillar of strength, in today’s age more than ever before. but in my day to day life, and it saddens me to admit this but ALMOST ALL I see is weak, defeated, nihilistic, irresponsible, ignorant women. I’ve traveled I’ve seen people in other places and in this country it seems to be a constant thing and it needs to stop. Don’t play the victim make changes.”

I saw this on my dash and read the comments under it from female bloggers and wrote this, I didn’t intend for it to be this long but oh well. This is what i wrote under the image when I reblogged it. 

"Are you kidding me? This is news to you, are girls really this delusional? Seriously how is this surprising to you, you’re honestly going to sit here and say that you didn’t know that this is how it is and how this magazine has ALWAYS been? I hear women complain all the time about how magazine kills women/girls self esteem but this is shocking to you… Seriously a lot of women are responsible for their own problems, you guys know the truth but ignore it and act like it doesn’t exist. It’s there with men/women you choose, “friends” you hang out with, talk/confided to, and choices you make, and these same types of women (not generalizing I said types because I’m speaking to a very specific group) play the victim. You irritate the hell out of me. Some of these same women who commented, reblogged, and and liked this post are still going to buy the next issue and other magazines like this, and even scarier enter this very contest. This is why guys don’t want you reading this crap and this is why you frustrate us. We have to pick up the pieces and we always get the blame for this. Well he’res some tough love. it’s not mens fault the world is like this it’s YOURS, that’s right I SAID IT.

1.You don’t like these superficial, shallow, sexiest etc. stuff in the media, then stop buying them. you say you don’t like it but buying of this stuff has not slowed down yet, YOU are the ones buying This stuff NOT men. it’s called supply and demand, if no one bought it the companies would not make it. But be honest, you like this stuff, you like being objectified. you love that feeling of buying a new pair of shoes and knowing how hot you’ll look in them, hearing about the new cosmetic etc. you are your own worst enemy, maybe the truth is, that you are these things you hate, maybe you should change some things about you and really look at why you buy into all of this.

2.the owner of these companies are NOT MEN they are women, their chairmen are WOMEN, their editors, mostly WOMEN, talent scouts mostly WOMEN, people that design the image are mostly WOMEN, and it’s same on down the list.

3.You say their is a issue, what have YOU personally done to fix it?

There is so much more I could say but frankly I’m exhausted and I think you see my point. I’m not saying that there are not sexist men out their but theY are not nearly the core of this problem and frankly the over whelming majority of men on the planet feel like I do, are pro women, and many consider themselves feminist. It’s a very small percent of men that are sexist where as there is a over whelming majority of women that buy these products, have poor self esteem and are self conscious, and read these magazines and watch these commercials and the poor self viewing is growing even more. I’ve seen the change in women of all ages from when I’ve grown up to now and I’ve sat and contemplated deeply rather it was me being older now I see more or is it a real change and I’ve concluded that it is not my age. Women are completely different and for the most part, not for the better. With all the legal and legislative advances you’ve gained so many of you have taken monstrous steps backward. I see a sea of thirsty, self loathing, complacent, materialistic, lazy, denial driven, nihilistic shells when I look at many of you. The work needs to begin with you and the poor choices so many of you make with your daily lives. You are passing this to your children and not just in the world you are shaping for them but by them watching your actions and mimicking them. Women are supposed to be a pillar of strength, in today’s age more than ever before. but in my day to day life, and it saddens me to admit this but ALMOST ALL I see is weak, defeated, nihilistic, irresponsible, ignorant women. I’ve traveled I’ve seen people in other places and in this country it seems to be a constant thing and it needs to stop. Don’t play the victim make changes.”