explicitlyflawed:

polerin:

continuingtoponder:

herahawk:

feministrocker:

facebooksexism:

legallyblinding:

A friend of mine is a student at Notre Dame. She was out with friends at a restaurant in South Bend, when this happened:

This photo was taken tonight at Nick’s Patio in South Bend, IN. These clever gentlemen thought it was super funny to talk about how much they would like to “violently rape that bitch,” “take it from that cunt,” and “beat the shit out of her.” They mentioned being puzzled about why “whores should even get paid” for the privilege of having their small penises inside them. They also thought it was super awesome to call me a “fucking whore” when I asked them to stop yelling ugly misogynistic things across the restaurant.

Sadly the manager asked me to leave after I began taking photos of these men. I explained to the manager that the group had been talking about beating up women, raping women, and were using extraordinarily offensive sexist language including bitch, cunt, slut, etc., but the manager simply told me to “return to my seat.” I declined to do so and left, while the men continued to shout “whore” at me (and at least one threatened to rape me as well).

To sum it up, a group of douchebags decided to create a hostile environment for no fucking reason. My friend was brave enough to stand up for herself and other people in the restaurant, but when she decided to do something about it, THE MANAGER ASKED HER TO LEAVE. Chances are these kids are Notre Dame students, and their actions likely violated the school’s behavioral code.

Here’s the information for the restaurant. Let them know that pandering to lowlifes is totally unacceptable. If there are groups or organizations that keep track of places that fuck up like this, let them know.

Nick’s Patio
http://www.nickspatio.com
1710 North Ironwood Dr.
South Bend, IN 46635 
Tel: 574-277-7400

Please help to spread the word.

This is in my home state…I’ll be happily telling any/everyone I know in that area to never support this business again.

Signal boost!

Welp. Not going there anymore. What the shit.

Really? I fucking go here all the time.

Looks like that isn’t happening anymore.

look at those fuckers hiding from the camera too. They know it’s not good, and they aren’t doing shit to stop it. Fuck them.

I don hope any one who has ever gone to this establishment. This what you do. print this out twice, photo and all.

1. take the first copy and tape it on the front door or window at said establishment.
2. walk inside and ask for the manager.
3. when the manger comes to you read this post word for word. when done say because of this restaurants behavior, clear endorsement of misogyny and immoral, passage handling of this atrocity, I nor my family and friends will never return to this establishment.
4. walk out.
5. take the copy you left with and take it to the newspaper and get it printed even if in the wanted section.

The goal is that people that come to the restaurant and see the first copy will do the same. and so on and so on. The restaurant will be covered with their actions. and they loose business and will be forced to change their ways, even if only to appease clients. they WILL make a change.

This behavior is NOT ok and if I were there I probably would have got kicked out to because I simple can’t sit by and watch this go down and say nothing. and do not support any establishment that violates your rights, amendments, of freedom.

abhortion:

If you think misandry jokes are funny, don’t throw a fit when someone makes a misogynist joke.

If you think misogynist jokes are funny, don’t throw a fit when someone makes a misandry joke.

NEW STUDY SAYS WOMEN AND MINORITIES ARE JUST DECORATION FOR MEDIA

I stumbled across this article recently about the studies that actress Geena Davis’ Institute on Gender in Media has been reporting on and I was to be honest pretty shocked at some of the results. I guess that if as women we are only told to be certain things through television, magazines, and films that is all we will aspire to be. To see the Institutes full report check out http://www.seejane.org

It’s no big revelation that women and minority actors have long struggled to land prominent roles in big-budget Hollywood fare. And entertainment and media’s oversexualization of women (even in Olympics coverage) has always been pretty damn bald-faced.

But how about kids’ TV shows, or family movies?

The Geena Davis Institute on Gender in Media (founded in 2004 by Oscar-winning actress and United Nations special envoy Geena Davis) has published a new report (PDF) detailing the stereotypes, barriers, and straight-up exploitation that still define how badly women and girls are treated on screen. The study takes a deep dive into prime-time television, as well as children’s programming and family-friendly films. Women are scarcer in prime-time shows and family films, and those films depict “fewer women in prestigious occupational positions,” the study notes. “Females are not only missing from popular media, [but] when they are on screen, they seem to be there merely for decoration.”

Check out some of the stunning stats below:

Some of ya’ll women kill me with this. Again check yourselves and what you teach your kids. Like I’ve been saying the past couple of days more so than others. Take some responsibility.

Artist: Lupe Fiasco

Song: Bitch Bad

I saw this on my dash and read the comments under it from female bloggers and wrote this, I didn’t intend for it to be this long but oh well. This is what i wrote under the image when I reblogged it. 

“Are you kidding me? This is news to you, are girls really this delusional? Seriously how is this surprising to you, you’re honestly going to sit here and say that you didn’t know that this is how it is and how this magazine has ALWAYS been? I hear women complain all the time about how magazine kills women/girls self esteem but this is shocking to you… Seriously a lot of women are responsible for their own problems, you guys know the truth but ignore it and act like it doesn’t exist. It’s there with men/women you choose, “friends” you hang out with, talk/confided to, and choices you make, and these same types of women (not generalizing I said types because I’m speaking to a very specific group) play the victim. You irritate the hell out of me. Some of these same women who commented, reblogged, and and liked this post are still going to buy the next issue and other magazines like this, and even scarier enter this very contest. This is why guys don’t want you reading this crap and this is why you frustrate us. We have to pick up the pieces and we always get the blame for this. Well he’res some tough love. it’s not mens fault the world is like this it’s YOURS, that’s right I SAID IT.

1.You don’t like these superficial, shallow, sexiest etc. stuff in the media, then stop buying them. you say you don’t like it but buying of this stuff has not slowed down yet, YOU are the ones buying This stuff NOT men. it’s called supply and demand, if no one bought it the companies would not make it. But be honest, you like this stuff, you like being objectified. you love that feeling of buying a new pair of shoes and knowing how hot you’ll look in them, hearing about the new cosmetic etc. you are your own worst enemy, maybe the truth is, that you are these things you hate, maybe you should change some things about you and really look at why you buy into all of this.

2.the owner of these companies are NOT MEN they are women, their chairmen are WOMEN, their editors, mostly WOMEN, talent scouts mostly WOMEN, people that design the image are mostly WOMEN, and it’s same on down the list.

3.You say their is a issue, what have YOU personally done to fix it?

There is so much more I could say but frankly I’m exhausted and I think you see my point. I’m not saying that there are not sexist men out their but theY are not nearly the core of this problem and frankly the over whelming majority of men on the planet feel like I do, are pro women, and many consider themselves feminist. It’s a very small percent of men that are sexist where as there is a over whelming majority of women that buy these products, have poor self esteem and are self conscious, and read these magazines and watch these commercials and the poor self viewing is growing even more. I’ve seen the change in women of all ages from when I’ve grown up to now and I’ve sat and contemplated deeply rather it was me being older now I see more or is it a real change and I’ve concluded that it is not my age. Women are completely different and for the most part, not for the better. With all the legal and legislative advances you’ve gained so many of you have taken monstrous steps backward. I see a sea of thirsty, self loathing, complacent, materialistic, lazy, denial driven, nihilistic shells when I look at many of you. The work needs to begin with you and the poor choices so many of you make with your daily lives. You are passing this to your children and not just in the world you are shaping for them but by them watching your actions and mimicking them. Women are supposed to be a pillar of strength, in today’s age more than ever before. but in my day to day life, and it saddens me to admit this but ALMOST ALL I see is weak, defeated, nihilistic, irresponsible, ignorant women. I’ve traveled I’ve seen people in other places and in this country it seems to be a constant thing and it needs to stop. Don’t play the victim make changes.”

eveningoutwithyourgirlfriend:

patrickvau9hn:

givemeallyourpartypoison:

sunnn-child:

mrselliotnightray:

This is from the March 2012 issue of Seventeen magazine. The contest, basically, is to showcase a girl that has done astounding things. (Like raising money for research on eating disorders, like said in the article.) However, they have to be pretty.

Excuse me, what? Let me try and decipher this for a moment. If a girl that isn’t your definition of ‘pretty’ does something beyond amazing, and is running against a girl that does something fairly amazing but is pretty… then the pretty girl wins?

Seventeen always seems to be promoting “being you” and “going for your dreams”. Well they sure are doing asplendid job with that pitch, now aren’t they? This is putting the notion into the reader’s head that no matter how incredible they are, if they aren’t pretty they won’t be on the covers of magazines for their achievements.

I’ve noticed, though, that this doesn’t really seem to apply that much to men! Frankly, I’ve seem somebutt-ass uglymen on magazine covers, and you eventually find out their some wicked-smart scientist or inventor. But the rule about being attractive doesn’t apply to them?

And,Seventeen, let’s be honest here. You’re going to Photoshop the winner anyway, who cares of they aren’t “pretty”? You can turn them into all the other aliens in a few clicks of a mouse. You don’t need brains for that. Which, apparently, doesn’t matter in your contest either.

I’m a 16-year-old girl wanting to minor in media studies. I’m practically seventeen, I know what is going through those girl’s minds when they read that. And it’s nothing good.

We better stop making girls think that beauty is priority over brains. I see first-hand how the new forms of media impact young minds — heck, I’m one of them. And I know the media is well aware of how they’re manipulating the minds of their viewers. It’s terrible on either side of the equation.

Wow, fuck you Seventeen.

Seventeen has stooped so low. so, so low.

I hate teen magazines alot more right now

this magazine is a piece of shit and the editors can smd

Are you kidding me? This is news to you, are girls really this delusional? Seriously how is this surprising to you, you’re honestly going to sit here and say that you didn’t know that this is how it is and how this magazine has ALWAYS been? I hear women complain all the time about how magazine kills women/girls self esteem but this is shocking to you… Seriously a lot of women are responsible for their own problems, you guys know the truth but ignore it and act like it doesn’t exist. It’s there with men/women you choose, “friends” you hang out with, talk/confided to, and choices you make, and these same types of women (not generalizing I said types because I’m speaking to a very specific group) play the victim. You irritate the hell out of me. Some of these same women who commented, reblogged, and and liked this post are still going to buy the next issue and other magazines like this, and even scarier enter this very contest. This is why guys don’t want you reading this crap and this is why you frustrate us. We have to pick up the pieces and we always get the blame for this. Well he’res some tough love. it’s not mes faught the world is like this it’s YOURS, that’s right I SAID IT.

1. You don’t like these superficial, shall, sexiest etc. stuff in the media, then stop buying them. you say you don’t like it but buying of this stuff has not slowed down yet, YOU are the ones buying this stuff NOT men. it’s called supply and demand, if no one bought it the companies would not make it. But be honest, you like this stuff, you like being objectified. you love that feeling of buying a new pair of shoes and knowing how hot you’ll look in them, hearing about the new cosmetic etc. you are your own worst enemy, maybe the truth is, that you are these things you hate, maybe you should change some things about you and really look at why you buy into all of this.
2. the owner of these companies are NOT MEN they are women, their chairmen are WOMEN, their editors, mostly WOMEN, talent scouts mostly WOMEN, people that design the image are mostly WOMEN, and it’s same on down the list.
3. You say their is a issue, what have YOU personally done to fix it?

There is so much more I could say but frankly I’m exhausted and I think you see my point. I’m not saying that there are not sexist men out their but they are not nearly the core of this problem and frankly the over whelming majority of men on the plant feel like I do, are pro women, and many consider themselves feminist. It’s a very small percent of men that are sexist where as there is  a over whelming majority of women that buy these products, have poor self esteem and are self conscious, and read these magazines and watch these commercials and the poor self viewing is growing even more. I’ve seen the change in women of all ages from when I’ve grown up to now and I’ve sat and contemplated deeply rather it was me being older now that makes me it see more or is it a real change and I’ve concluded that it is not my age. Women are completely different and for the most part, not for the better. With all the legal and legislative advances you’ve gained so many of you have taken monstrous steps backward. I see a sea of thirsty, self loathing, complacent, materialistic, lazy denial driven, nihilistic shells when I look at many of you. The work needs to begin with you and the poor choices so many of you make with your daily lives. You are passing this to your children and not just in the world you are shaping for them but by them watching your actions and mimicking them. Women are supposed to be a pillar of strength in today’s age more than ever before. but in my day to day life, and it saddens me to admit this but ALMOST ALL I see is weak, defeated, nihilistic, irresponsible, ignorant women. I’ve traveled, I’ve seen people in other places, and in this country it seems to be a constant thing and it needs to stop. Don’t play the victim make changes.

If you were truthful about what you wanted. Actually said what the problem is instead of waiting for the guy to figure it out. You’d be a lot happier. I mean do we ever figure it out? No. We’re just confused about the shit, we ask whats wrong and you lie and say nothing. We know you aren’t being honest so we keep asking and you keep saying nothing so we stop asking. Mean while you’re still pissed about it. You could have just been and adult and communicated what was wrong and get the problem fixed but you’d rather do it this way. I think a lot of you just like being pissed or the attention. Now a lot of you are going to say. “You should know”…

Ok not only is that stupid in the most epic, moronic way but you don’t know why we’re mad when you fuck up unless we tell you so what in GOD’s green earth makes you think we can with you? Also it NEVER works so you keep trying it expecting us to know. Do you know what the definition of insanity is? It’s doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result.

Just try telling them what the problem is and see if it get’s fixed. If he understands you  he’ll fix it if possible.

inherhipstheresrevolutions:

EXACTLY.

Slut. Duh you girls say it all the time. Why do so many women act like they are the only ones that get called names for being whores? You call us Dogs, man whores, he sluts, hoes, sluts etc. The ONLY difference is women seem to take it to heart more when you’re called it. That is IT. You call us names too and rightfully so.

YOu need to understand some Slut, whore, hoe are not disrespect ful words. they are legitament words in the english language and none of them are gender based (though we do have terms that are gender based) If you don’t want to be called a slut, whore etc. don’t it the definition. If you are permiscuous then by definition you ARE a slut. that is what the word menas. Getting upset about it is like getting mad about it is like being mad about a building you live in being called a house or a shelf you keep books being called a bookcase.

I really get tired of this crap. You are what you are. If you are a certain way and don’t seem to have a problem doing what you are doing, why get upset when you’re called what you are? If someone called me an artist i’d agree, if they said I’m opinionated I’d agree. If people call me blunt or say sometimes I can be mean, I’d agree because it’s TRUE I fit the definition of all those things. If being called a slut bothers you don’t be one, it’s really that simple. If you don’t want to change and or you think it’s liberation, or you being in control of your sexuality, or feminism, or you just like sex, then learn to deal with the fact that you are what you are being called and deal with the person that you are.

There is nothing sexist about it. Women call men that do the same things dogs, and everything else so it’s not like men that fit the description aren’t getting the same names. Often we respond to them a lot different than many women do but that’s about it. I have 4 sisters and many female friends you guys talk so much shit about these kinds of men so don’t give me that “it’s different for guys” because it’s not. The ONLY difference is how handle these tittles. 

Grow up and accept the truth about yourself. If you do not fit the definition then it does not apply to you and screw the person who called you it. Just like women who say “all men are dogs.” or “men only want one thing.” It’s no different. Men go through a lot (not all the same) of the exact same stereotypes and discrimination as women do by women. it’s a circle of ignorance perpetuated by ignorant men AND women. But I’m getting of topic.

In conclusion. Grow up. Stop playing the victim. You’re much too old for that.