Ever sense I was tiny I wanted nothing more than to be a husband and father. But now that I am 26, I see how bad a lot of men are treated with their children; kids are used as a threat, held from them, average every other weekend “visitation” think about that, you “get to visit your child”, are robbed of being around them, a court system that works against fathers, how that lack of time forces you to either be the fun goofy dad or the jerk. because when you only get 2 days every other week you’re pretty much forced into that position. I look at marriage/paternity and family court and realize that the laws are not written for the children and they don’t benefit the fathers. Legally a woman isn’t even required to inform a man she is pregnant; we could break up, she can find out she’s pregnant and never inform me I have a son and it’s perfectly legal. I hear people argue that’s what’s court is for but these people don’t understand that you have to get processed it could literally be months before we go to court to discuss the case, that’s months with out my kid, that is unlawfully being held from me. Let’s not for get that this is just to air my grievance, doesn’t mean it will be decided or that it won’t get pushed back. and how this could also lead to a worse relationship with the mom and less with my kid. If I could not see my child honestly I don’t know how I would be mentally. I see a lot of horrible horrible parents and to know my child was being raised in those situations and I could do nothing… I really don’t think most women I talk to about this grasp what I’m saying. The laws aren’t made for us and that’s why at this point I can’t see myself getting married or having children anymore.
Song: We’re All To Blame
This video looks random, comedic, and throwback to an old television series. But it really makes pwrfect sense with this song. If you really look at it, it’s perfwct context.
Ok this is bothering me. When did hood ish become kool? What is so appealing about being hood? I don’t get it I’ve been around hood ish to a degree a nice portion of my life on various levels. And all I wanted to do was be as far away from it as possible.Yet I see so many people who gravitate towards it. I wish I could sit here and say its not as bad as people say it is but the truth is it’s just as f*cked up as it seems. You got people getting killed over dumb ish, kids having kids, drugs, breakins, getting robed on the street, you cant even wear certain color in your own neighborhood. What part of that sounds appealing to you? What, you been listening to these trap rappers talking about all this money they are supposedly getting in the hood? Most of these folks don’t do half the stuff they say and couldn’t tell coke form powdered sugar, if they did, they aren’t now and keep it real when they got said money, they moved out the damn hood. You know why? Because if they stayed they’d get robbed too. Keep buying into the hype that these dudes got all this respect in the streets and are untouchable and try to model your life after them if you want to, one day you will get touched and not in a happy way, and you might end up in jail getting touched in a creepy way. What you trying to be hood for this girls? Let me tell you something, women don’t like hood cats, hood rats like hood dudes and that ain’t what you want bruh. These hood rats and young lil girls out here falling in love with rappers because the got money and tattoos so you do it. Now your dumb ass has a ice cream cone tattooed on your face, you’re still broke, and can’t get hired, you look stupid, and you still don’t have a girl. Wake up and realize that just because you are from the hood, live in the hood, or have lived in the hood does not mean you have to be hood. I’m living proof of that. My mom is from Douglas, there is a grab bag of addicts, thieves, ratchets, pimps, hustlers, deadbeat mom and dads, and shiesty people on both sides of my family and I have made a continuous effort to avoid following in those foot steps, breaking those generational curses, and getting those arrest records. Based on that alone I should have a parole officer, a record, 3 babies mommas that I can’t stand, a ebt card, a closet full of nightgown length white tees and this drank in my cup. A lot of y’all don’t see anything wrong with the stuff I just listed and that really saddens me. I just thank GOD I was able to learn what not to do by watching others and having a mom that cared and kept me right and not fall victim to my surroundings or environments and keep me out the hood the majority of my life. I hear a lot of you dudes thinking they’re tough walking around talking about “I’m a real nigga I do real nigga shit. I’m trill.” But you’re not tough, you’re weak. You’re letting the streets dictate what you do with your life. That’s not what MEN do. You’re tough when you can live through that ish everyday and NOT become a product of your environment. You’re a man when you wake up and realize that the hood life is not the kind of life you want to live. You’re a man when you can go to school and not be peer pressured into misbehaving and doing dumb ish or having sex, or doing whatever just to fit in and not make to much noise. It’s real easy to be a nuisance and a problem, you want to do something tough? Go out and do some shit that’s tough, like go out and be a productive member of society rather than go along with all the foolishness. That’s when ish gets hard. That’s when we see how real you are. I try my best to tell my little cousins thing to help them cope and I feel like at least one listens to me. I look around when I’m out, I watch tv, I listen to the radio, and I read what y’all say on here and I realize, that there are people that CHOOSE to live this life. and I’m left wondering…why? Some people could do better but don’t, some people take pride in the bullshit they do. Why? Some of y’all aren’t even from the hood, but you take on these personas like its kool. You know how many people that actually live in these environments pray their whole lives to get out?
Ain’t ish kool about the hood. On the street I use to live on (lake park street in da bay) one of these bad ass kids influenced by his bad ass hood rat family and peers tried to break into a house but the owner was there and shot through his own door with a shot gun and killed the kid. He was like 8 or 9. The owner didn’t know because he was on the other side but he and his friends some of them older or teens were trying to break into this old mans house and that’s what that life gets you. I can’t even listen to these trap rappers because it’s all so fake. I can’t remember the last time I heard one of them make a song that really depicted a trappers life. All I hear is money, hoes, parties. Unless you REALLY know me you wouldn’t know. But I learned to cook crack, break into cars, and an assortment of other things, from piers and or friends/acquaintances that didn’t have the strong guidance I had growing up. I knew a lot of people in high school. I was quiet but I was kool with all sorts of people, from jocs, to band geeks, to hippies, to popular kids, to lames. Some or doing ok, some are dead, some are in jail, some I and in have no clue about. I cant even listen to these trap rappers. I can’t remember the last time I heard one of them make a song that REALLY depicted a trappers life. All I hear is money, hoes, and parties. That is not a trappers life. Trapping is getting your moms house shot up cause they were looking for you or couldn’t find you, coming home and seeing a trail of your supply, following it and find your little brother dead form o.d.ing on your work, trapping is always watching your back, death, endangering those around u etc. trapping is murder. I hate when people try to say its anything other than that. If you are a dboy, be real about what you are. You sale poison that kills people, you kill people out of business, you kill people in self defense, you kill people who betray you, and you are responsible for the deaths caused because they got caught up in your mess. You destroy lives and the neighbor hoods you live in. You screw up families, and by proxy help turn the kids into monsters and broken people out in these streets. Yeah SOME dboys really get money but most of that is frontin. They get money and spend it. They buy a car trick it out and have to re up. These boys buying benzes in the hood and pulling up to a apartment complex. The sad thing is a lot of people don’t see the issue with that statement. You don’t own anything. You rent a apartment, your car lost it’s value when you bought it (and keep it real, a lot of y’all are leasing these fly cars, perpetrating), the stuff you added to it made it even less valuable. They don’t even realize that trapping is a job not a career. you’re suppose to save that money and get out. These folks think they can trap forever with no plan. Trapping is going to get you dead or in jail, the two things you risk everyday is always a heart beat way. All the old heads are dead or in jail and all that is left is the thirsty cats that are a result of the crappy life the old heads trapping made of their family. So they are left to fend for themselves because their parents got hooked/killed/jailed. So they’re out here hungry, and a hungry person is moraless. So they fall into the cycle and make it even worse for the generations under them. That’s why people are so easily influenced by media now, that’s what’s raising them. These folks hear these trap rappers and think trapping is a fucking party, “bitches” who want screw you because of all your money, and a way out. It’s called the trap because it is a trap. You don’t have any connect. You don’t know Noreaga, the real Noreaga, and his ass does not owe you 100 favors. You are working for someone else and you know entirely too much about his operation to just walk away. You’re stuck. Once you’re in its real hard, not impossible, but REAL hard to get out. Even if you do the people don’t forget who you were, what you did, and how you effected them. It’s not like a jeezy song. These folks are being sold a farce of a dream and we are all paying for it as a people, as a country, and as humans. Young people including those my age (25) and younger are the coldest most nihilistic people imaginable and its depressing to me. I worked in the guidance office as a assistant my senior year and the there was a 3 page list printed with list of every pregnant girl in my school. 3 pages, do you know how small computer type is? The cycle continues. It really shows just how many of you are really out her trapping or doing the stuff y’all say if you buy into this mess most of these trap rappers say and think it’s accurate, if you do y’all ain’t really bought that life. So I’m asking those of you who subscribe to this. WHY? What do you find so appealing, and I want replies.
I saw this on my dash and read the comments under it from female bloggers and wrote this, I didn’t intend for it to be this long but oh well. This is what i wrote under the image when I reblogged it.
"Are you kidding me? This is news to you, are girls really this delusional? Seriously how is this surprising to you, you’re honestly going to sit here and say that you didn’t know that this is how it is and how this magazine has ALWAYS been? I hear women complain all the time about how magazine kills women/girls self esteem but this is shocking to you… Seriously a lot of women are responsible for their own problems, you guys know the truth but ignore it and act like it doesn’t exist. It’s there with men/women you choose, “friends” you hang out with, talk/confided to, and choices you make, and these same types of women (not generalizing I said types because I’m speaking to a very specific group) play the victim. You irritate the hell out of me. Some of these same women who commented, reblogged, and and liked this post are still going to buy the next issue and other magazines like this, and even scarier enter this very contest. This is why guys don’t want you reading this crap and this is why you frustrate us. We have to pick up the pieces and we always get the blame for this. Well he’res some tough love. it’s not mens fault the world is like this it’s YOURS, that’s right I SAID IT.
1.You don’t like these superficial, shallow, sexiest etc. stuff in the media, then stop buying them. you say you don’t like it but buying of this stuff has not slowed down yet, YOU are the ones buying This stuff NOT men. it’s called supply and demand, if no one bought it the companies would not make it. But be honest, you like this stuff, you like being objectified. you love that feeling of buying a new pair of shoes and knowing how hot you’ll look in them, hearing about the new cosmetic etc. you are your own worst enemy, maybe the truth is, that you are these things you hate, maybe you should change some things about you and really look at why you buy into all of this.
2.the owner of these companies are NOT MEN they are women, their chairmen are WOMEN, their editors, mostly WOMEN, talent scouts mostly WOMEN, people that design the image are mostly WOMEN, and it’s same on down the list.
3.You say their is a issue, what have YOU personally done to fix it?
There is so much more I could say but frankly I’m exhausted and I think you see my point. I’m not saying that there are not sexist men out their but theY are not nearly the core of this problem and frankly the over whelming majority of men on the planet feel like I do, are pro women, and many consider themselves feminist. It’s a very small percent of men that are sexist where as there is a over whelming majority of women that buy these products, have poor self esteem and are self conscious, and read these magazines and watch these commercials and the poor self viewing is growing even more. I’ve seen the change in women of all ages from when I’ve grown up to now and I’ve sat and contemplated deeply rather it was me being older now I see more or is it a real change and I’ve concluded that it is not my age. Women are completely different and for the most part, not for the better. With all the legal and legislative advances you’ve gained so many of you have taken monstrous steps backward. I see a sea of thirsty, self loathing, complacent, materialistic, lazy, denial driven, nihilistic shells when I look at many of you. The work needs to begin with you and the poor choices so many of you make with your daily lives. You are passing this to your children and not just in the world you are shaping for them but by them watching your actions and mimicking them. Women are supposed to be a pillar of strength, in today’s age more than ever before. but in my day to day life, and it saddens me to admit this but ALMOST ALL I see is weak, defeated, nihilistic, irresponsible, ignorant women. I’ve traveled I’ve seen people in other places and in this country it seems to be a constant thing and it needs to stop. Don’t play the victim make changes.”
The Highway of Tears. So many missing women, so little attention given until enough public pressure made it impossible to ignore any longer. Now, the Missing Women inquiry has announced it will hold public forums.
I feel like so much evil is finally bubbling up into public view. I’m having a hard time with it today for some reason. So long overdue. So very much to answer for.
Do you anti technologhy (a person who is opposed to increased industrialization or new technology), create, support or watch alternative media source (media that may give a different view of the news than depicted by mainstreem media.), or store seven days worth of food or more in your home? You are considered and terrorist/violent extremis. Pay attention.